Waves of Courage Counseling LLC

Healing & Strengthening Resilient Relationships

Relational Trauma Therapy for Military Families

Reclaim Your Authentic Self
Using EMDR techniques, this corrective attachment work enhances the re-processing stage of therapy

Are you a parent struggling to connect with your children, feeling distant or misunderstood despite your best efforts?

Do past relationship traumas leave you triggered and unable to trust or engage in new relationships?

As military personnel or a veteran, do you find interactions with authoritative figures challenging due to unresolved past issues?

Do you seek a deeper understanding of how your early experiences shape your current relationships and emotional responses?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, let’s talk. Schedule a consultation today to discover how I can support you on your journey!

How is this different from other therapies?

Introducing Attachment-Focused Trauma Therapy (AFTTA) with EMDR techniques, offering a unique and comprehensive healing experience.

  • Attachment Repair: Address early attachment wounds to build stronger, healthier relationships.
  • EMDR Techniques: We’ll use bilateral stimulation techniques to help integrate and strengthen the positive changes you’re making to support the re-processing stage of EMDR therapy.
  • Parts work/Ego-state therapy: Identify and nurture the young parts of yourself to meet the needs that were unmet in early childhood.

Benefits of This Therapy Model

Military life often brings relocations, deployments, and stress, which can strain family bonds. Strong, healthy connections within the family provide stability and support during these times. And if you’re a veteran, remember, it’s never too late to start healing.

We focus on:

  • Foundation Building: By addressing attachment issues first, we create a stable foundation that makes the re-processing of traumatic memories more effective and less overwhelming.
  • Increased Safety: Establishing secure attachments and a supportive environment helps you feel safer and more grounded during EMDR sessions.
  • Enhanced Resilience: Strengthening your emotional resilience before diving into deep trauma work ensures you have the coping skills needed to handle intense emotions that may arise.

You are more than your military career. Whether you are a person, a parent, a friend, or a partner, no matter what role you play in your life, you are worthy of healthy relationships and deserve to believe you are lovable. This type of relational trauma therapy is designed to support you in overcoming past traumas and building stronger, more resilient relationships.

Other Questions

Attachment refers to the emotional bonds formed in early childhood, shaping how we relate to others. There are four main attachment styles:

  • Secure Attachment: Characterized by trust and a sense of safety in relationships. Individuals with this style feel comfortable with both intimacy and independence.
  • Anxious Attachment: Marked by a fear of abandonment and a need for constant reassurance. Individuals with this style may be overly dependent on others for validation.
  • Avoidant Attachment: Involves a tendency to distance oneself emotionally from others. Individuals with this style often value independence and may struggle with intimacy or connection.
  • Disorganized Attachment: A mix of anxious and avoidant behaviors, often resulting from severe trauma. Individuals with this style may have unpredictable or confusing responses in relationships.

Here’s how I meet you where you are:

  • Honoring Your Service: We may integrate your military experiences into therapy, helping you understand how past roles influence present relationships.
  • Creating Safe Harbors: We develop secure, internal connections that respect your need for community and personal space during transitions.
  • Mobilizing Support Networks: We can build an internal resource team familiar with military culture, providing enduring support.
    Empowering Resilience: We strengthen your competent adult self by tapping into both positive personal and military experiences, fostering resilience.

We also address:

  • Separation and Reunion: Manage transitions by fostering secure attachments and improving communication.
  • Emotional Regulation: Develop healthy coping mechanisms for high-stress situations.
  • Identity and Role Confusion: Clarify roles and strengthen individual identities within the family.

You can learn more about EMDR, my approach, and find other FAQs here.